Asshe grieves her husband, Allison Holker Boss is findingcourage in their three children.
“My kids and I always had such a strong unit, but at this time there is just a different bond that we share. I always want to make sure that they see me really strong for them, but it’s been amazing to see that my kids are also there for me now,” says Holker, 35, of daughters Weslie, 14, Zaia, 3, and son Maddox, 7.
“I’m so proud of them, and of how they’re willing to feel and communicate with me. They’re open to asking me questions, and we try to find our way together,” she continues. “Sometimes it breaks my heart that they have to feel that pressure to take care of me, but that’s a true testament to Stephen, because that’s what he would have done.”
SinceStephen’s death last December, Allison has been intentional about making sure their family has continued makingjoyful memories and celebrating milestones.
Stephen “tWitch” Boss with his wife Allison and family.Allison Holker/Instagram
“It’s so important my kids are cared for right now. I want them to see you can still beyouand be an individual. All of us finding our joy and coming together is where we’re going to find happiness as a family,” she says.
Together, they still have meaningful conversations with Dad. “The reason the stars are so important to me is because that’s where we believe he is,” she says. “So we go out there, and we talk to him. I’ve told them if they ever need him, he’s always listening. He’s guiding and he’s protecting. We still feel his presence with us.”
Allison also sees the best parts of Stephen in their children. “Weslie is his wisdom, Maddox is his joy, and our youngest, Zaia, is his intuition,” she says. “They all have these really special, unique energies about them. They lean into it and they inspire me every single day.”
Allison Holker Boss.Nolwen Cifuentes
“They had such a beautiful relationship. It was so depth-filled, andthey were just the coolest peopletogether,” Allison says of the father-daughter duo. “Weslie was the first one to go back to school. Seeing her be so strong, and then we got Maddox back into school, I was like, ‘Okay, my kids are feeling settled. I think I can do this too,'” she recalls.
One of the first times Allison belly-laughed after losing Stephen was with her teen daughter. “We found ourselves going over memories, and we started laughing so hard,” she says. “We actually questioned it at first because it almost made us feel weird to find laughter.”
Allison Holker with Weslie, Zaia and Maddox.Allison Holker/instagram
The moment sparked a long discussion between them, and ultimately “we knew that Stephen would want us to be laughing together,” she says. “He was sharing in that moment with us. Now in our house, laughing with the kids is such a part of everything. It’s a part of our healing, and the giggles remind me that we’re going to be okay — and that weareokay.”
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