NickandVanessa Lacheyare opening up about one important conversation that got them to where they are today.
“I always said I was going to be that girl that would never give a man an ultimatum,” says Vanessa, 41, tells the contestants of the new show.
Nick, 48, jokingly chimes in to say that his now-wife “was lying” to herself. From there, Vanessa explains how presenting the former 98 Degrees crooner with an ultimatum brought them closer together.
“We dated for five years. So I finally said, ‘What are we doing?’ she continues. “I have now moved in with him, I renovated his entire bachelor pad, there was a bar in the pool. I’m like, ‘Whatever you want!’ Now I’m like, ‘Okay, well, I want to put kids in the pool.'”
Adds Nick, “I think that’s what put the deal in the coffin.”
Being even more candid with the contestants, Vanessa reveals that the pair even “took a break” from their relationship before realizing they wanted to make it work.
“We both saw one other person and we realized that if we got out of our own way, we could be amazing together,” she says. “But it took seeing somebody else and me realizing I don’t mind the things that I thought bugged me or were holding me back. I don’t mind all that.”
“Like, the bigger picture is how I feel about this person and their values of wanting to be with me and knowing everything about me,” she adds.
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Nick, in turn, suggests that the experience gave them both “perspective.”
Nick and Vanessa tied the knot in July 2011 at Richard Branson’s property on the British Virgin Islands. Now, they are parents to daughter Brooklyn, 7, as well as sons Camden, 9, and Phoenix, 5.
In addition to co-hosting Netflix’s popularLove Is Blindseries together, the longtime duo also now co-hosts its upcomingThe Ultimatumspinoff.
The new series will follow six couples who are on the verge of marriage. While one partner is ready to wed and presents their love with an ultimatum, the other isn’t quite sure they’re ready to take that step.

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All couples will split up for three weeks and explore a love connection with someone else. Once they are back together, they will decide whether they want to get married to their original partner or break up for good.
source: people.com