Erica Bana and Connie Britton as John Meehan and Debra Newell in season 1 of ‘Dirty John’.Photo: Nicole Wilder/Bravo
Warning: This article contains spoilers about the real-life events dramatized in Bravo’sDirty John.
The red flags in her relationship with John Meehan went up early, butTonia Baleswas slow to see them.
His dismissive explanation: “They’re just drunk. It means nothing.”
“He was charming, and he seemed very interested in me, and of course, that always feels good,” Bales told PEOPLE in 2018 of their early days when she was a nurse and Meehan was attending law school before he abruptly opted to change careers and let her support him during his transition.
By the time they divorced in 2002, after Meehan got another woman pregnant, Bales — then a mom of their two girls — had learned he was an expert at hiding secrets, including his past arrest for cocaine trafficking.
She’d found his mother’s phone number and reached out. “’This is Tonia. I’m married to your son John,' " Bales recalled saying. “[His mom] was totally quiet. Then she said, ‘Oh Tonia, I knew you would call me one day.’ "
“That just led to the whole conversation that he’s changed his age, he altered his name, he’s been arrested before, he’s been lying and cheating and messing around with other women his whole life,” Bales said.
But that was far from the end: Meehan’s deceptionswould grow much darker— and more deadly.
A New Mark?
John Meehan and Debra Newell at a 2014 breast cancer benefit.Courtesy Debra Newell
In 2014, Meehan foundDebra Newellon an over-50 dating website, Newell told PEOPLE.
Their two-month romance led first to marriage and then to tragedy, inspiring the hit scripted Bravo seriesDirty John, adapted from aLos Angeles Timespodcast of the same name. A companion documentary,Dirty John: The Dirty Truth, premiered on Oxygen in January 2019.
Newell, a wealthy and successful interior designer looking for love after four failed marriages, “couldn’t wait to spend my evening with him,” she told PEOPLE of their initial connection.
“He’d tell me how beautiful I was, ask me about my day and rub my back,” Newell said. “I was infatuated with him.”
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They hired a private investigator who validated their fears: Not only had Meehan never attended medical school, he had a felony rap sheet that revealed he’d served time in California and Michigan for stealing narcotics from hospitals where he worked as a nurse and had swindled and terrorized multiple other women he’d met online.
In fact, Meehan had only been out of prison for a few days before his first date with Newell.
“I was in shock,” she said. “And I was scared and angry.”
A Troubling History
John Meehan and Debra Newell at their Las Vegas wedding in December 2014.Courtesy Debra Newell
The woman was a wealthy writer who had encountered Meehan in a hospital where she was recovering after surgery, and he falsely portrayed himself as her anesthesiologist. “She wakes up to see a man in scrubs at her bedside, and he gives her his phone number and says, ‘If you have any issues following your surgery, give me a call,’ " Bowman said.
“He has a type,” she explained. “He would meet as many women as possible and then find the one that is the wealthiest, and then attach to that person.”
Contact between Meehan and the writer led to a relationship, and he “convinced her to wire him all of her money in two separate bank accounts that totaled almost $40 million,” Bowman said.
Before the money was in Meehan’s hands, however, the woman balked. An alarmed friend searched his name online and found “all these women who were trying to warn other women that he had extorted them and stalked them,” Bowman added.
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Meehan “was able to dismiss every allegation — ‘This was just a bad breakup’ or ‘She’s jealous of me,’ " Bowman said. But after he learned the woman had blocked the transfer, a financial tussle broke out as Meehan spent the cash she’d already given him — $30,000 — cut her off from her family and wreaked havoc on her life with threats and demands.
When police intervened to arrest Meehan, he was driving a car he apparently extorted from another woman and living in a cluttered RV he’d conned from a third woman, according to the former investigator. (He eventually pleaded guilty in the case to stalking, burglary and being a felon in possession of a handgun.)
In the freezer of his RV, police found Meehan had stashed a backpack containing a revolver, ammunition, binoculars, duct tape, zip ties, a GPS unit and cyanide capsules — what Bowman called “pretty much a killing, kidnapping kit.”
“He seemed like he was someone who was very experienced in doing exactly what he was doing,” she said. “It just seemed so calculated and polished.”
Meehan succeeded thanks in part to that level of calculation and polish and expert exploitation of his targets.
“A lot of times women think they’ve put themselves in this position or that it’s their own fault that they’ve gotten into this relationship and it got messy, or that the person will eventually leave them alone, and that’s not the case,” Bowman said.
“The problem with stalking, the thing that makes it so volatile,” she explained, “is that you don’t know how a stalker is going to respond.”
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A Con Man’s Demise
In Newell’s case, her children’s discoveries made her realize she did not really know the man she had married.
She sought an annulment of their Las Vegas vows, even as Meehan tearfully told her he deserved a chance to prove he was innocent of any accusations. His pleas prompted a short reconciliation. But then Newell went into hiding, and Meehan responded with a violent turn.
He filed for divorce himself, demanding half of Newell’s income and ownership of her business. He lit her Tesla on fire, emailed nude images of her to her family and began to stalk her, repeating the same terroristic tactics he’d used before. “I lived in constant fear,” Newell said.
On Aug. 20, 2016, for reasons that remain unclear — whether out of desperation or revenge, hoping to track Newell down or punish her — Meehan waited outside her daughter Terra Newell’s Newport Beach, Calif., apartment and attacked her.
Terra, though injured, successfully fought him off — kicking his knife from his hand, then grabbing it herself and stabbing him in the chest, forehead and eyes.
Meehan, who’d been placed on life support, died four days later at age 57.
Newell added: “Everything was a lie. … You feel like John just thought he was the greatest guy on earth. It was like he was convinced of it, how great he was, how good-looking he was.”
“But that’s part of the psychopath,” she said.
The Aftermath
Terra Newell and Collier Landry.Terra Newell Instagram
Terra Newell Instagram
Three years to the day of that fateful face-off in August 2016, Terra — now a life coach, advocate and podcaster — penned a poignant column exclusively for PEOPLE wherein she reflected on the infamous abuser’s violent reign of terror.
“If you’ve seen the show or have listened to the podcastDirty John, you know what happened next.I survived and killed my attacker,” she wrote. “Three years later and this day is now a celebration of my life. A day to show other women they can fight back. A day to educate others on the red flags from master manipulators. A day to show others there is life after a diagnosis of PTSD.”
In August 2023, Terra reconciled the painful anniversary with a positive milestone: her one-year anniversary with boyfriend and fellowcrime survivor Collier Landry, with whom she hosts the podcastSurvivor Squad.
“The moment I met Collier in person,I just felt like I could share anything with him. I think I shared my deepest, darkest secrets the first night we got together,” she told PEOPLE. “I’m just very appreciative of Collier because…I feel that no one has known me the way that Collier has known me. … Both together and individually… [we show] that you can move past these things and that we live lives that are independent of that.”
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source: people.com
